«Want is a growing giant whom the coat of have was never large enough to cover...»
~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Recently, I have been thinking and talking a lot about gratitude.

It seems that so many of us want more than what we have. It's not that we aren't happy with what we already have in our lives, we just want more. We want a better relationship, we want more money, we want a bigger house, we want, we want, we want.

But what about being thankful for what we already have?

A few months ago, I received a Gratitude Journal as a gift from The Secret. The journal is encased in a beautiful heavy leather, tri-fold binder. I really liked it because it had a private, secret feel to it. Like what I wrote would be just between me and God. The journal itself is divided into two sections; 'Gratitude Now' and «Gratitude Intentions'. Each page of the journal has quotes that relate to gratitude.

Receiving the Gratitude Journal seemed like God offering me the «next step» on my journey. But I found it really hard to get started. It wasn't that I wasn't thankful...it was just finding a way to state the gratitude. And the idea of being thankful in advance for things that I wanted but didn't have was almost not conceivable to me. So the journal sat on my shelf.

About a month ago, the journal called to me. So I took it off the shelf and opened it up, staring at the blank pages. It was hard, so I just started with the obvious. 'Thank you, God, for giving me loving and interesting children. Thank you for the beautiful children that I work with and the joy they give me each day.' Then, I thanked God for putting people in my life that made me want to be a better person. And that was it. I couldn't make it past that.

I read and meditated on what I had written every day. I said the words of gratitude in the quietness of my mind and aloud. I remembered that, if God were indeed everything, then I was also a part of God, however miniscule. I reminded myself that my thoughts could become things.

And just about a week later, things started to happen. My life began to change. I began to find people in my life who were suddenly making me really look closely at myself; to question the strength of my own beliefs; to evaluate my purpose/ to find my true relationship with God, the Universal Mind.

I found that the gratitude started flowing so much more easily. When I was sad or frustrated, I found things to be thankful for instead. It wasn't easy, but I saw it manifesting huge changes in my life. Just a little gratitude for what I already had.

I have this friend who is fabulous in many ways. He's young, he has a great job, he's handsome, and he owns his own home. He has what I believe to be a good relationship with God and seems to try to be very faithful. Looking in from the outside, he seems to have a pretty perfect life. But what he doesn't have that he really wants more than anything is a wife and a family. In the relatively short time I've known him, it's been an ongoing conversation. He is so concerned with what he doesn't have, what he wants, and the reasons that he doesn't have it, that he overlooks how wonderful his life already is, even without that.

Last week, I told him a story from a parent's point of view. As a mom, I give my children everything that they need and a lot of things that they want. They don't usually have to ask me for things...I sort of just supply them. On occasion, though, they want something else. When they are so focused on that one thing that they forget what a great life they actually already have, I don't give them what they want. After all, they don't even recognize how blessed they already are! On the other hand, if I know that there is something that they want, but they not just focused on getting it, but instead are enjoying all they have in their lives, then I give it to them, if I can. I think that God, as a parent, must be much the same way. He just wants us to appreciate all that he's already given us without always wanting something else.

I, for one, am extremely blessed. I have great friends who are always there for me; an awesome family; my children are bright, intelligent and interesting. I have a home, I have a car, and I have food on my table. I have talents. I am blessed. Yet still, I too find myself wanting more. But what could I possibly need that God hasn't already given me?

Want is indeed a growing giant. When we get what we want, we just want more. So many times, we forget to stop and just be thankful for what we already have. Gratitude is such an amazingly powerful gift. Use your gratitude as often as you can and you'll soon find that you are given more than you could even ask for.

Peace.

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The Goddess Mari is a belly dance instructor, performer and choreographer from the Chicago area. She has been working online for almost 8 years and manages multiple websites. She owns and operates ArticleFocusBlog.com, which is a pay-to-post, high quality article blog.. In this series, she chronicles her own search for a greater existence.
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Somewhere Near the Beginning

About a year ago, I realized that I had lost myself somewhere along the course of my life. This was a very disturbing realization, as I had always looked at myself as a rather «together» sort of person. But I woke up one morning and realized that my trouble marriage wasn't really getting any better in spite of therapy, I was in more than one codependent relationship, I had no spiritual focus, friends who I thought were my best friends really weren't my friends at all, and I didn't even know what I wanted from life any more. Not a good place.

This realization made me see that I had been focusing on fixing the wrong things. I was trying to fix my relationship with my husband; I was trying to fix the problems in my friendships; I was trying to fix my life. But I wasn't trying to fix myself. It was time for me to take the focus off the things that had gone bad in my life and start working on the things that had gone bad in me.

«Or how can you say to your brother, 'Brother, let me take out the speck that is in your eye,' when you yourself do not see the log that is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take out the speck that is in your brother's eye.» Luke 6:42

Having been raised in a very strong Christian family, I had always felt strongly about spirituality. I have never been a strong supporter of religion, though, even as a child. I found myself questioning throughout my life. I attended different denominations, finding comfort in what my family called a «non-church» Unitarian Church. I've always wanted to talk about God, but not have someone else tell me how to believe. With no Unitarian Church around me and nowhere else I felt comfortable and welcomed in the truest sense, I sort of let my own spiritual upkeep go.

Flash forward to a confused and lost goddess who no longer remembers that she is a part of God. She wants to find her way again.

My search began at the local bookstore. At one point in my life, I had found meditation to be a really powerful force for me. So I started in the music section looking for guided meditations that I thought might be good for me. I found «The Secret Universal Mind Meditation». (Please visit http://www.GoddessMari.com/recommends.html for more information on recommended items.) This has been a life-changing meditation for me. I referred to the meditation as «positive brain washing». Yes, brain washing can be a bad thing, but it doesn't have to be. I wash my body every day. Why not take a little time to wash all the crud out of my mind too?

I watched «The Secret». And then, as the continual student that I am, I started reading books and listening to CDs, hearing lectures, and going to discussions. I started reading the bible and devotionals. I started seeking out friends who were willing to spend time discussing their ideas and ideals with me without passing judgment. I even ended a few friendships that had taken a bad course and were counter productive to my personal growth. That was the hardest thing for me to do.

The thing is that I began to really see the power of manifestation, of the Law of Attraction, of prayer. I had some very negative friendships that were making me feel bad on any number of levels. There was a friend who was so verbally abusive to her children that I felt nauseous after seeing her. There was a friend who was so verbally abusive to me when upset that I began doubting my own value and self-worth. I realized that as long as I allowed myself to be used, disrespected, or just continued to hang around people that didn't have the same values as I did, I would not be able to put my life and my own mind in order. Back to the «first take the log out of your own eye» thing...how could I help anyone become a better person, find fulfillment in their life, or discover their own self-worth if it was all a struggle for me?

This is where this series begins. With an eternal being, a part of God, a person created from energy and pure thought...who had forgotten who she was and who thought she was only a limited human. Me. This series is my journey -- however crooked, curved, bumpy or beautiful and divine the path might be. Take this journey with me. You don't have to agree with what I say or think. Just remember, you are also an eternal being, a part of God, a person created from energy and pure thought. And remember to work on yourself before you try to work on others. That includes me.

Peace.

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The Goddess Mari is a belly dance instructor, performer and choreographer from the Chicago area. She has been working online for almost 8 years and manages multiple websites. She owns and operates ArticleFocusBlog.com, which is a pay-to-post, high quality article blog.. In this series, she chronicles her own search for a greater existence.

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